To keep things moving, you have to keep things fresh. This is a time to reaffirm the path that your life is on. Are you happy and fulfilled? Or, are you feeling unsatisfied? Should you change something? These are questions you can only answer when you take advantage of this gift of quiet. If, instead, you fill your time with entertainment that you mindlessly consume—TV, movies, randomly surfing the web—it will be difficult to answer these questions. You can never devote enough attention to coming to a clear answer.
To create is one of the most important things you can do in your life. To create among a sea of people or even just one person vying for your attention is one of the most difficult things in life. All excuses are gone. Your other option is to ignore that call to create and, instead, look for temporary comfort in things and people who will eventually leave you unfulfilled.
Make use of your loneliness. It only needs to be present. Pursue these plans immediately. Perfect never comes, and the longer you wait, the harder it is to get started. Maybe you want to travel the world and understand different cultures.
Maybe you want to build a massive stamp collection. When you do this, two things happen. Second, this confidence brings new and interesting people into your life. Being alone can be beautiful, but if you want to add people to your life, finding a purpose for your existence is the fastest way to do it. Get used to doing things alone that society says is made for two. Go to a movie by yourself and enjoy the picture. Have a great dinner out all by yourself. Take yourself on dates, and learn to treat yourself well.
This will be awkward at first. Accept it. When you work on a team, the pressure to conform is great. You always have to think about the others in your group and regularly make compromises so that the end result is acceptable to everyone. Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things can lead to new friendships and amusing experiences.
You just need to be willing to put yourself out there instead of waiting for things to come to you. Seeing other people smile is contagious, so if you start the smile train, others will reciprocate and you will both be in great moods. A good way to get out of your comfort zone is to try a day habit every month. You may even find some hobbies you end up adopting for a lifetime.
Many people might think that the answer to being happy is a simple one: just do things that make you happy. However, due to psychological attachments , this is not true at all. You may enjoy chowing down on a quart of Rocky Road ice cream. You may enjoy watching an entire season of Dexter in a single sitting. But will these things bring you happiness in the long run? They will bring you feelings of guilt and remorse. Watching meaningless TV shows or eating your favorite comfort food might sound like a good idea at the time, but for the purpose of achieving happiness, they are often counterproductive.
Read a great biography, watch an inspirational documentary , start a new business, or create a new website. Lose yourself in your art, music, woodworking, cooking or any other meaningful work. Need some inspiration? Spend all day at a gallery or museum and let your mind experience different reactions and emotions to the exhibits or educational experiences.
When you lose yourself fully in your work, you will become proud of what you have created, which will leave you feeling fulfilled and happy. Start off small and focus on your most important tasks first. Why not take this time to focus on one or two aspects of your life that you have wanted to improve? The only part of your mistakes that should dictate your future are the lessons that you got out of them.
And make time in your busy schedule to stop and be mindful of the things around you, your achievements, and the positive aspects of your life. Researchers have found that taking the time to recognize the good things around you can increase your positive emotions, improve your sleep, help you show more kindness and compassion toward others, and even strengthen your immunity.
Your house. Your car. Your family. Your job. Your education. The fresh flowers growing along the side of the road. Whatever it is that you have in your life that brings you joy deserves a second thought. In fact, the simple act of keeping a gratitude journal can significantly increase your satisfaction with life. In theory, this seems like a pretty easy fast track to an improved life.
To benefit from practicing gratitude, you need to learn to stop and notice new things that make you happy every day. The reason gratitude journaling works is because it slowly adjusts how you observe situations by altering your focus. Becoming more aware of your surroundings will enhance your gratitude practice. Try to notice new things every day. Here are some tips to strengthen relationships or form new ones:.
Helping other people is rewarding, and doing so allows you to feel connected to your community and to other people. Here are some great tips to help you find a suitable volunteering opportunity in your city that matches up with your skills and interests. Where do you want to be both personally and professionally in 10 years? What would be required to do to accomplish those goals? Writing your plans down will help guide your everyday decisions.
No matter what your goals are, go after them. Having firm plans that you can obviously modify as your life unfolds can give you more hope and help you stay optimistic today about the opportunities for tomorrow.
If you feel like you truly need advice, reach out for it. If you can trust yourself to handle your problems, you will become more confident and you will be able to pursue challenges that you once thought were beyond your abilities. Once you accept these thoughts, your world will become brighter and the opportunities will be endless. Dyer Check out more inspirational Wayne Dyer quotes! Embrace this time alone and make the most of it by getting to know yourself through self-reflection and developing the confidence that you deserve.
It is absolutely possible to be happy and live a full life without having someone next to you at all times. Follow the tips laid out in this article to put yourself on a positive path toward living your best life. Being happy alone is about making consistent efforts toward self-improvement and feeling empowered to be able to trust your own decisions.
All good stuff, SJ. I truly believe that the only person who has the power to make me happy is myself. We are certainly in charge of our own happiness and have to learn to love ourselves before worrying about any relationship. Others can provide support and enjoyment, but your happiness will always come from within.
Thank you for that. You are right that we are responsible for our own happiness. You are so right! We cannot let our happiness depend on others. We can love them, support them and get supported in return. But ultimately our happiness depends upon ourselves, in a relationship or not!
I am sorry to hear about your earlier toxic relationship. IT is great you overcame it however, so kudos! Hi Anna Love your story my dad was an alcoholic too, my home Was chaos from a young age with my mum and dad fighting,I then went into a relationship the exact same ir was all I noo, I attract men who are not good for me, im just out another alcoholic relationship so I feel now something has clicked in me and that is learn to love myself and then things will fall into place SMALL STEPS.
Yes, Holly, I also have a lot of friends and relatives that prefer being in an unhealthy relationship rather than sating on their own. Everyone has experienced being single for a while. Of course, I am very young still but sometimes I am aware I am a way too single. A psychiatrist once told me that for women is not common to live singlish, while men could be single. Seems a little sexist in this day and age for the psychiatrist to imply that it is OK for men to be single but not women.
There is certainly no need to rush things. I am approaching 40 and have spent most of my life single. Sounds like you are doing it right -you are still young, enjoy it! As to 8, jumping back years in time is very powerful. Reading 1 made my heart ache a little bit — the thought of sitting down with a glass of wine and watching a marathon of my favourite show sounds like absolute heaven to me. Hi Scott. I have also created a presentation on Slideshare about how wrong mindset holds us back.
Your article has given me a new perspective on happiness. Now, I think if people start with changing their habits then it might help them automatically develop a healthy mindset and belief system. There was one i loved and let slip away for many reasons that had nothing to do with her,nothing is worse then being alone,and i will rest when this life is over.
I know how hard it is to be alone, and especially so as we get older. I need to work on letting that go as well. There are none where I live and meeting people here that I could consider friends is difficult. Try to keep your spirits up and love yourself. Daniel, I read your post and was deeply moved by your comment about your being 56 and deeply alone.
I think there is alot of wisdom in your comment. I am currently in a situation where I am wrestling heavily with trying to find peace with someone I care about deeply who is gone from my life geographically. Any advice…would be greatly appreciated. This person, tho toxic, was the love of my life. Really nice article. Very inspiring. We can be happy alone. It was really nic.. Recently, I got divorced not by choice. It disturbed my life to a greater extent. Now when I went through my article, it actually gave me a ray of hope.
I am now serious to implement this in my life. Thank you for posting such great stuff. Recently I experienced relationship breakup which I never want to but unfortunately it happened. I suffered from severe depression finally I come to know that I loved her more than me that was the real problem I felt that my happiness is with her but later I come to know that happiness lye within us no one comes and give you that you should create your own happiness so that our heart wont be a puppy of others.
Really the above content is very helpful for me I will follow and I will be the who creates my own happiness. I am glad that you found the article useful, but of course soprry for your relationship issues. It always sucks! Also glad to hear, however, that you have come to the realization that real happiness comes from within and cannot be based upon others. Sounds like you have turned the corner… best of luck to you!
Enjoyed reading many of the above suggestions which I will use to find happiness within. Ultimately break out of thinking my joy could only come from having company, caregiving and pleasing others. In my routine I recently found him passed away in his home. Expecting rescuers to come my way and make me happy, made me realize I needed to think positive, find love and happiness within myself, for myself, by myself.
I was extremely low, browsed and found this stuff, feeling so relieved , always looked for my happiness entwined around someone else, while people create wonders single-handedly. Definitely gonna try and use ways to live all by myself. Thank you so much for this. Great point about not needing reasons to be unhappy. I know people who seemingly have everything, who are constantly unhappy, and others who struggle financially who are very content. So much of happiness is attitude, and like you mentioned, it is very easy to fall into a rut.
I have a mother…… Alive…. Can someone be happy without being able to have any independence? Yes, i know that life is still go on no matter what happened in the past. I have been alone for over 5 years and have to say, it hurts. I was married for 31 years and with my ex-husband for six years before that. I had never lived alone before; and am still trying to come to terms with it.
My two kids live local but I generally only see them for a few hours once a week or less. Since the breakup things have not improved for me. It sounds like you are doing some of the right things too, trying to find social activities beyond your relationship. I would like to be optimistic and think they are the exception rather than the rule.
Have you thought of treating yourself to an adventure? Something to break the doldrums of everyday living? I am guessing you are in your late 50s or early 60s by your years adding up your years married and single.
Something like a trip to Europe could bring some excitement to your life. Just a thought. I knew my parents just worry about my future living but I wanted to prove it. I told my boyfriend I want to start a small online business and I hope he will support me and we can do it together. I was so busy at TV station plush I have to make order for my customer, reply their message packaging goods and contact with delivery company. Since that day my dad not allow me to go anywhere just stay home and relax.
For the first 3 week I felt so hurt so lonely I lose hope I missed him I cried almost everyday. I tried to read many articles to make me feel better to inspire myself and start doing many habits. I felt lonely again but your aticle remind me how to be happy. And I listed something new in my schedule,Dota 2 and Yoga and I had a trip to a beautiful place it has mountains forest and it is a silent place and those things help me a lot.
First of all your English is quite well! Well done! Secondly, thank you for sharing your story. You are so young but yet so wise, and courageous, and optimistic!
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